Rock n’ Roll
The distress we experience in response to loss leaves us without a ground to stand on, in a completely different place. Far from the place we were used to.
Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Whatever the nature or scale of our sudden change is, we are left out of game. The game we were used to play, happily or not.
First thing that happens is that we need to talk about it and express our feelings.
If we are lucky our friends will drop things like:
Be creative. Move fast. Think outside de box.
If we are not, besides our emotional storm we’ll have to bear the wise words of a friend telling us that
He/She knew things were not going all right.
Both are useless.
When a crisis hits us we have feelings in all directions. We don’t know where to head. We don’t know what we want. We feel weak. We feel sad. We feel stupid.
We start considering all those things we could have done to avoid it.
But the truth is that crisis is there for a reason.
Nobody I’ve known so far ever welcomed a crisis but it is not the kind of guest that knocks before opening. And if it’s already in and won’t leave let’s accept it. Breathe and accept to find our way out. This means understanding and learning about our power limits. Breath because we cannot control everything and things will not always go as we feel is best. Once we are ready to accept the situation is unchangeable we can breathe again.
Breathe and reconnect with our values and strengths. This simple step is already an opportunity to develop our mindfulness skills. Being aware of who we are or what we have always helps to know what we can do or how we can respond.
Breathe and let go. If we don’t say goodbye to the reasons, the unknown reasons, the people, the circumstances and any detail related to how crisis’s managed to get into our life we can’t make room for stimulating new experiences. Me must let go our thoughts. Things will never be the same and that’s sad, even if we can only do better now.
Breathe and open our minds. Infinite possibilities are there for us to explore if we ignore the ego’s tears. For our ego will cry whenever reality does not conform to our expectations because our identity is questioned. Opening our minds is about a spiritual journey from a secure place to an unknown one. We must breathe and roll with changes.
ReSTART by JJ Richards